Real Life...It Blows Sometimes


And so it happened. I failed my first architecture exam. What a time! Looking back I know I did some of what I had to or at least I thought I did. I disappeared off the grid and that’s always the hardest thing in life for me. I avoided going to events I wanted to go to. I sacrificed countless hours of sleep for months. I played Nice For What and Kanye’s Champion the whole way to the testing center to get ready to blow through this exam. I said another one of my meanest prayers to God like, “You gave me this dream so let’s go to war for it! If you go before me I promise to meet you on the other side with my effort. I’ll do it!...etc. Etc.” I did all that in the hopes that I could pull off passing my second exam of six in total and I didn’t. And you know I was actually alright with it all a few months ago.

That was until...I attempted to take the same exam again only to fail...again.

And that time hurt. Bad.

I remember sitting there staring at the computer screen reading the pre-assessment results of a likely fail and wanting to cry. However, you all know I’m a thug on the weekdays and so I abstained until I could air box safely in the confinement of my car. I found out about three days later though that I hadn’t improved in the majority of the areas since my first attempt at taking the exam. That blow hurt like not having your check drop until the 4th of the month when your rent is due on the 1st. And so Kiera wept. I’ll admit it. After that and a rather large glass of wine poured by my best friend I picked myself up only to wage the war in my mind.

You know the one where you have to fight the common lies of “maybe I’m not smart enough”, "maybe I chose the wrong profession", “what is the point of trying again anyways?”, along with a long list of expressions glittered with general expletives I swear I’ll stop using one day, and everything in between.

Now before you go off to text or DM me with all of the “it’s ok Ki’s” just know that I am fairing fine right about now. I am dealing with it and still brushing myself off, but overall I’m just adjusting to fact that I have a lot of room to improve. And that is ok. I’m still a little battered but I’m getting better at taking on challenges; this is a challenge I accepted at seven so I shall try again. I will improve and I will pass them all. ALL of them. I’m just resurfacing to tell you all that a lot of times your dreams will try you. They will not come easy. They will not be sweet and ready with open arms to allow you to level up real quick. The journey to achieve our dreams are a constant uphill battle and sometimes you might fall, but our failures only make more room for God to work in and through our situations. What is a testimony without the tests anyways? I'll just add this experience to a long list of reasons that’ll justify all the champagne bottles I plan on popping with you guys once I do finally get that piece of paper. So ready yourselves for next year people!

Now regarding your dream know that whatever it is you can achieve it. Whatever it takes you already have it within you. You ARE enough so dust yourself off and get back to work.

Besides...everyone loves the underdog.

Happy Battling Dreamers,



26 Things i peeped

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And so as we’ve said goodbye to June I just wanted to drop in and give you all some updates on the things I’ve learned thus far. To be honest, this whole twenties thing is something else entirely, but it’s such the beautiful journey. I’ve learned quite a lot over the years. Some lessons I’ve had to relearn. Some lessons were tough and made me cry...and laugh….and scream, but here. So here goes nothing!

  1. There are some things you actually have to spend a little more money on because they’re worth it. You might cry at having to drop a little extra money, but that’s worth more than having to do things like rebuy stuff or wake up with a giant crook in your neck over trash pillows.

  2. Life can happen in the blink of an eye. No one is exempt but we best all be prepared to occasionally go the extra mile when necessary.

  3. You’re never too young to begin caring for your body (i.e. skin care, dental health, all of that).

  4. Stop letting people and hobbies waste your time and get away with it! You know if you’re feeling something or not and 26 is actually old enough to understand that you’re not getting any younger so fill your time up with things you won’t regret.

  5. Any time spent towards being there for friends or just to be with them in general is never time wasted. Ever.

  6. Not asking for help is dumb.You’re not that original bruh. Someone has been there done that and are further than you so take advantage of that wisdom. I promise it doesn’t make you look less bright. Promise.

  7. Those same people and those same activities aren’t going anywhere.

    • I used to be afraid I’d miss out on something if I had to go ahead and disappear to accomplish something. Silliest way to think. Those same clubs, songs, and people will be there right along with someone’s sketchy uncle that shouldn’t even technically be out. So handle your business. It’s attractive.

  8. Showing emotion is a privilege that too few people engage in. It is ok to show you are: hurt, happy, excited, upset, etc. It’s also a privilege you ought to afford others because we all aren’t ok all the time and having that outlet when needed is priceless.

  9. Pay attention to those who show they want to be in your life and don’t force those that don’t.

  10. I’d rather be rich in life memories than to be rich in money.

  11. Hope doesn’t get the job done. You have to act on the things you dream about.

  12. That unsettling feeling that you have concerning where you are in life, the one that lets you know deep down that there is more fulfillment out there for you….pursue that. Pursue it until you finally find it and you’re satisfied.

  13. Travel more. Worrying about your money never ceases so you might as well scrape your pennies together and go see or experience something new.

  14. Comparing yourself to other people is a complete waste of time. It’s like comparing apples to oranges. They’re just not the same and will never be. Appreciate each for its own.

  15. Everything I imagine myself having….I am capable enough to see it realized now.

  16. Step away. Life is loud and if you listen at everything too long you miss out on listening to yourself. So tune in to the things you want to do for yourself.

  17. Keep a rainy day fund. Life will try you. It’s only a matter of when and when it does hit those pockets it feels SOO good to be able to borrow from yourself.

  18. Accomplishing change is uncomfortable. Accept it. Get over it.

  19. Don’t repackage the qualities you KNOW you want in a partner. You have a pretty good idea of what you want. Don’t compromise and don’t keep calling a red flag a white one with a little pink tint in it either. A flag issa flag. Just saying.

  20. Sometimes it’s just wiser to do what God said the first time and spare the running marathon. (Edit: sometimes is all the time.)

  21. You will outgrow both things and people at some point in your life and it is totally okay to move around once you realize you have.

  22. You can’t surprise God. Point blank.

  23. NO ONE’s preconceived or existing views of you hold more truth than what you KNOW about yourself. NO ONE can tell you who you are. You decide that for yourself.

  24. Everyone takes an L at some point. It’s life so just take it in stride and beast on.

  25. Progress is progress despite the increment of how much.

  26. Be realistic with your goals and approach them accordingly.

  27. *bonus* Give yourself more credit for who you are and what you’ve already accomplished. The world already beats you up. Don’t help it.

Well, that’s it! I hope you guys enjoyed it and feel free to let me know what some of your best life lessons were over your years. Here’s to more life.

Happy Dreaming Dreamers,



How to Friend Successfully: Bitty Edition


So lately I've been on a friend appreciation journey. In my last blog post I blogged about how to friend for free and if you haven't read it you can check it out here. Now when it comes to my friends I must say that I am fortunate enough to have some good ones in my life and one of them, in my humble opinion, friends so successfully she can probably teach a class on how to keep real ones around you.  So I present to you guys my friend Brittany Bullock, aka the friend keeper. I call her the friend keeper because somehow she manages to hold down a demanding 9 to 5, write content for various publications, run her own travel website and brand, and play brand ambassador for other thriving brands just to name a few things. To learn more about her brand, The Brittany B, and all of the wonderful things she's doing feel free to check out her website here. I want to be sure not to understate the fact that she does all of this while managing to be an awesome friend kind enough to share with us some of her friending secrets. So enjoy!

Q1: I know you keep a crazy busy schedule so what are some creative ways in which you hang out or chose to make time with friends?

I’m lucky that my friends also keep a busy schedule so it makes us all understanding to the fact the time we do spend with one another is important. I appreciate that we can do a mix of things together. Get dressed up and go to a nice dinner or stay in the house and bake cookies. There is a good balance between us. Work sessions are a common thing with us as well. Getting together with our laptops and notebooks to knock out blog posts, editing, client emails, etc. Throw in some wine and we have a party.

Q2: Out of your friend group what friend would you consider yourself to be? Are you the organizer? The go with the flow friend? The chill friend? And how do you use your unique character to better your friendships?

I’m the unpredictable friend. I like to explore and go find new things to do/eat/see so the can count on me for that but I’m also the friend that will just tell someone to get in the car we are taking a mini road trip or hey it’s 2 am. Let’s go to fuel city randomly. I think because I don’t fit in one category or box makes my friendships work. Some days I am a grandma and want to eat snacks while doing facemasks; other days I want to go out and stay out until the sun rises. It depends on my mood.

Q3: What advice would you give to someone looking to step up their level of friendship maintenance?

Be the friend you would want someone to be with you. The smallest things can mean a lot to friends. I randomly will tell my friends how much I appreciate them, how great they are, etc. My Chicago friends that I am really close to I speak with every day. We do devotionals together, send bible scriptures, etc. We take trips with one another, watch shows long distance, discuss albums together. It doesn’t take a lot of effort with us.

Q4: What’s the longest friendship you’ve managed to maintain over the years? What struggles and triumphs have come with that that you had to figure out that successfully kept the friendship intact? (i.e. proposed schedules to talk? etc.)

To be honest it has been hard for me to maintain some relationships. There are times we genuinely outgrow people as well. Seasons last different lengths. One of my friends that I had through college and out of it was like that. We never lived in the same state so would travel to see one another. I honestly had let our friendship fade out and she 100% called me out on it one day and I felt horrible. You need friends that will let you know you aren’t doing what you need to be doing. I made efforts to do better about contacting her. Asking about life. Not because I felt forced but because I cared about our friendship. We are still rocking and rolling after 8 years. We may not talk for one week but I make it a point to make sure there is some type of conversation between us. I will email her randomly. Text and ask her opinion on clothing. Again the small stuff can go a long way.

Q5: Where are some places or what are some things you would recommend to people trying to figure out new ways to hang out with their friends?


Free events (movies in the park, free museum days, grand openings)

In house brunches

Working out together

Photo shoots (for bloggers/creatives this is a life saver)

Ice cream outings

Game Night

Try a new recipe together

Winery tour

Find new areas to explore that are walkable

Bike Riding

Photo Scavenger Hunt


Summertime water balloon fight.


So that's all for me dreamers! I hope this series on friendship is inspiring you to get out there and rekindle those friendships because life is more fun with a great set of friends around you. Honestly. Truly. Stay tuned for more and feel free to comment below with some of the ways you've maintained your friendships!